{"id":1386,"date":"2024-07-10T13:16:28","date_gmt":"2024-07-10T13:16:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/associaciopupila.org\/?page_id=1386"},"modified":"2024-07-16T11:22:07","modified_gmt":"2024-07-16T11:22:07","slug":"sempre-que-discutim-acabo-feta-un-embolic-sentint-que-tot-es-culpa-meva-per-que","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/associaciopupila.org\/index.php\/preguntes-i-respostes-violencies-masclistes\/sempre-que-discutim-acabo-feta-un-embolic-sentint-que-tot-es-culpa-meva-per-que\/","title":{"rendered":"Sempre que discutim acabo feta un embolic, sentint que tot \u00e9s culpa meva. Per qu\u00e8?"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"wpb-content-wrapper\"><p>[vc_section full_width=&#8221;stretch_row&#8221; css=&#8221;.vc_custom_1719925658590{background-color: #f4f4ff !important;}&#8221;][vc_row gap=&#8221;35&#8243; css=&#8221;.vc_custom_1719925704678{margin-top: -20px !important;}&#8221;][vc_column width=&#8221;2\/3&#8243;][vc_column_text css=&#8221;.vc_custom_1721122770481{margin-top: -5px !important;}&#8221;]<\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"color: #443697;\">Sempre que discutim acabo feta un embolic, sentint que tot \u00e9s culpa meva. Per qu\u00e8?<\/span><\/h2>\n<p>[\/vc_column_text][vc_column_text]<\/p>\n<div style=\"padding: 56.25% 0 0 0; position: relative;\"><iframe style=\"position: absolute; top: 0; left: 0; width: 100%; height: 100%;\" title=\"2.4 Qu\u00e8 entenem per ciberassetjament\" src=\"https:\/\/player.vimeo.com\/video\/975175334?badge=0&amp;autopause=0&amp;player_id=0&amp;app_id=58479\" frameborder=\"0\"><\/iframe><\/div>\n<p>[\/vc_column_text][vc_column_text]Suposa que li comentes a la teva parella que t\u2019has sentit ignorada durant una sortida amb amics on va estar molt distret amb el m\u00f2bil. Quan li ho expliques, en lloc d\u2019escoltar i intentar comprendre el teu punt de vista i \u00a0la teva viv\u00e8ncia, et diu que est\u00e0s exagerant i que sempre est\u00e0s buscant excuses per discutir. La conversa deriva r\u00e0pidament en una llista de suposats problemes que tu tens, com la teva inseguretat i gelosia. Acabes sentint-te culpable i preguntant-te si realment est\u00e0s sent massa exigent.<\/p>\n<p>Ara imagina que has arribat a un acord amb la teva parella sobre com repartir les tasques dom\u00e8stiques. Malgrat els vostres compromisos, la teva parella sembla evadir-se cont\u00ednuament de les seves responsabilitats. Quan intentes parlar-ho, en lloc de recon\u00e8ixer el seu comportament, et diu que exageres i que sempre est\u00e0s de mal humor. A m\u00e9s, comen\u00e7a a queixar-se de les seves tasques i a argumentar que tamb\u00e9 est\u00e0 sota pressi\u00f3, desviant l&#8217;atenci\u00f3 de la discussi\u00f3 principal. Acabes sentint-te frustrada i confusa, preguntant-te si realment tens ra\u00f3 per a demanar un canvi.<\/p>\n<p>Aquests s\u00f3n dos exemples clars de llum de gas. <strong>El llum de gas \u00e9s una forma de viol\u00e8ncia psicol\u00f2gica i de manipulaci\u00f3 en qu\u00e8 la persona que l&#8217;exerceix invalida el que tu sents, et culpa de tot all\u00f2 que passa i de les seves reaccions.<\/strong> I, sobretot, et fa dubtar de la teva pr\u00f2pia percepci\u00f3. Pot semblar incre\u00efble, per\u00f2 el llum de gas, en les formes m\u00e9s greus i quan es dona de forma constant, pot arribar a fer que dubtis de la teva pr\u00f2pia viv\u00e8ncia.<\/p>\n<p>Pot utilitzar frases com: ets massa sensible, tot t\u2019afecta massa, t\u2019ho prens tot massa a pit, veus coses on no n\u2019hi ha.<\/p>\n<p>Pot ser, tamb\u00e9, que qui ho fa, es faci la v\u00edctima. La victimitzaci\u00f3 tamb\u00e9 \u00e9s una forma d\u2019exercir control.<\/p>\n<p><strong>La senyal m\u00e9s significativa i inequ\u00edvoca per identificar-lo \u00e9s una gran sensaci\u00f3 de confusi\u00f3.<\/strong>\u00a0 Notes que el teu malestar mai \u00e9s recollit, que no saps com has arribat a aquell punt de la conversa i et costa recordar qu\u00e8 t\u2019ha dit; no tens respostes a les teves q\u00fcestions. De sobte, no saps com, s\u2019ha girat la truita, ell s\u2019ha victimitzat o te n\u2019ha donat la culpa. Hi ha una discordan\u00e7a entre la teva percepci\u00f3 i el que l\u2019altre et retorna. <strong>Si et trobes buscant proves, revisant missatges, converses, contrastant entre els teus records per confirmar la teva viv\u00e8ncia\u2026 \u00e9s la senyal definitiva de que probablement has rebut llum de gas.<\/strong><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"color: #743199;\">Com ens podem protegir?<\/span><\/h3>\n<ul>\n<li>El contacte zero o tallar en sec el contacte pot ajudar si no volem tornar a veuren&#8217;s en el cicle de la manipulaci\u00f3. De vegades, la socialitzaci\u00f3 femenina ens impulsa tant a cuidar l\u2019altre i quedar b\u00e9 que tenim la sensaci\u00f3 que fer aix\u00f2 \u201cno \u00e9s correcte\u201d i no ens ho permetem.<\/li>\n<li>Si vols deixar dita alguna cosa i decideixes que vols comunicar-li, pots dur-la escrita i marxar directament o comunicar-ho per qualsevol altra via de forma unidireccional.<\/li>\n<li>Busca alg\u00fa de la xarxa que pugui sostenir-te quan acabis la conversa.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>I sobretot, recorda: <strong>davant la viol\u00e8ncia i la manipulaci\u00f3, no tens perqu\u00e8 \u201cser curosa\u201d<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>El que sents \u00e9s v\u00e0lid.[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][vc_column width=&#8221;1\/3&#8243;][vc_btn title=&#8221;TOTES LES PREGUNTES&#8221; style=&#8221;outline-custom&#8221; outline_custom_color=&#8221;#743199&#8243; outline_custom_hover_background=&#8221;#743199&#8243; outline_custom_hover_text=&#8221;#ffffff&#8221; shape=&#8221;square&#8221; size=&#8221;lg&#8221; 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